Boris has slammed the door... Amber and Boris have gotten into a fight, and Boris asks Dave for help. Dave shows Boris healthy mechanisms for processing emotions that come up after an argument. Eventually Boris and Amber resolve.
Materials Required: pencil and paper
This lesson cross references the SEL Core Competency: 'Relationship-Skills.' It teaches children effective conflict resolution. Dave gives practical tools and mindfulness strategies on how to manage negative emotions in relational settings. He shows how to reach a safe place internally amongst a mental swirl of frustration with others. The episode ultimately models how to developing positive relationships even amongst healthy conflict.
This lesson cross-references with B-SS 2. from the ASCA Mindset and Behavior Standards.
MW2 : Mental Wellbeing - that there is a normal range of emotions (e.g. happiness, sadness, anger, fear, surprise, nervousness) and scale of emotions that all humans experience in relation to different experiences and situations.
MW3 : Mental Wellbeing - how to recognise and talk about their emotions, including having a varied vocabulary of words to use when talking about their own and others’ feelings.
MW4 : Mental Wellbeing - how to judge whether what they are feeling and how they are behaving is appropriate and proportionate.
CF4 : Caring Friendships - that most friendships have ups and downs, and that these can often be worked through so that the friendship is repaired or even strengthened, and that resorting to violence is never right.
In Matthew 5:24 Jesus taught that before sacrificing a gift at the altar, one should first reconcile with their “brother that has something against you.” For His Jewish audience sacrifice represented worship. This means that before God wants worship, He wants relationships to be mended! The skill of mending our hearts after a conflict is very helpful for a Kingdom lifestyle.
Additional Scriptures: Proverbs 18:13, Galatians 5:23, Hebrews 12:14