Boris spilled paint on Amber's toys ... They got into an argument and now are not talking. In this lesson Dave and Boris explore forgiveness and basic restorative practice. Boris eventually learns the role he can play in harm reparation and cleans up his mess to show Amber that he is serious about restoring their friendship.

Materials Required: bowl, dirty coins, vinegar, salt, and a kitchen towel

Age Group: Early Elementary/KS1

This lesson cross references the SEL Core Competency: 'Relationship Skills.'

This lesson cross-references with B-SMS 1. B-SS 2. from the ASCA Mindset and Behavior Standards.

UK:
CF4: Caring Friendships - that most friendships have ups and downs, and that these can often be worked through so that the friendship is repaired or even strengthened
CF5: Caring Friendships - managing conflict

Biblical Insight:
Jesus is the one credited with saying forgive 7 times 70 times (Matthew 18:21-22)! Forgiveness is a big deal in Jesus’s teaching. But notice how in Matthew 5:23-24 Jesus explains that if there is some wrong between 2 friends, they should physically go to each other and reconcile. Forgiveness is more than a mental process; it has a concrete component. This is why after Peter denies Jesus 3 times, Jesus asks Peter if Peter loved Him 3 times. Jesus forgave Peter and then gave him a chance to clean up his mess (John 21:14-17), and He ultimately restored Peter to his place of leadership. Asking for forgiveness doesn’t mean one has to undo all the wrongs they’ve done in the past; you’ve been forgiven. However taking actual responsibility to mend the relationship is an essential part of the forgiveness puzzle.
Additional Scriptures: Matthew 6:14, Colossians 3:13